"have a notary notarize it" is quite possibly the funniest phrase I've read today. My mom was a single parent for most of my childhood. My parents divorced before I was 3, and my dad died when I was 11. My grandmother and uncle and aunt made sure that she had time to herself so she didn't just collapse from the stress. Taking care of your own needs isn't selfishness; it's a necessity. Preventative maintenance, as it were. Grief is exhausting, both mentally AND physically. It's like wearing a lead poncho. But you can find a place to take it off and set it aside for a while. And while I can't say "it gets better" in a cliched kind of way, the burden does become more bearable. I'm not sure whether it's because we get callouses or because we get stronger, but eventually it will happen. And the first time it does, you'll feel guilty about it, but that will fade, too. I know you can't SEE the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise you, I swear to you that it is there. How do you feel about incense? Do you use it in ritual or meditation?
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My mom was a single parent for most of my childhood. My parents divorced before I was 3, and my dad died when I was 11. My grandmother and uncle and aunt made sure that she had time to herself so she didn't just collapse from the stress.
Taking care of your own needs isn't selfishness; it's a necessity. Preventative maintenance, as it were. Grief is exhausting, both mentally AND physically. It's like wearing a lead poncho. But you can find a place to take it off and set it aside for a while.
And while I can't say "it gets better" in a cliched kind of way, the burden does become more bearable. I'm not sure whether it's because we get callouses or because we get stronger, but eventually it will happen. And the first time it does, you'll feel guilty about it, but that will fade, too.
I know you can't SEE the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise you, I swear to you that it is there.
How do you feel about incense? Do you use it in ritual or meditation?