On being a girlfriend...

[bloodsong1]

Had an interesting conversation with SNB regarding relationships. I got the distinct impression he hasn't had one last more then six months and as such, he's skeptical of us, despite the obvious love.

Maybe I'm naive, but I've been a wife twice, a girlfriend twice, and a romantic interest with or without sex...well, I'd say twice, but an argument could be made for three times, all before him. All of those are in the 6-18 month range, with Wolf being the "stayer" of 7 years. I can kind-of tell when things are going south, y'know?

So, no, I don't know EXACTLY how a girlfriend acts or behaves. All I can do is be myself and show that what we have will last longer then six months and, if the gods are kind, a hell of a lot longer then seven years. We've already discussed the killswitches, as it were, and he's let slip a few things that made me go "Hmmmm" and vice versa. (My favorite quote of his; "How is it that you have the fashion sense of a woman AND a man balanced so well inside you?!" I have since agreed to wear skirts for HIS formal occasions and he will deal with me wearing a nice pantsuit on MY occasions, especially if it's cold, but I still haven't talked him into the Man in Black/Inigo Montoya Halloween costumes, which I think we'd totally ROCK)

Frankly, I'm a little surprised he's still here.

*shrug*

What will be, will be.

Comments

[sheherazahde.livejournal.com]

Yes. What will be will be.

I like what Sammie said about relationships. Every relationship is different. Don't expect your relationships to fit some script.

[page-of-swords.livejournal.com]

It's not a "This is how a GF (or BF) behaves like some Stepford wife/Manga Salaryman trope."

I've gotten in trouble with this in the past by assuming things were X, Y, Z without discussing them.

But behave like you want to, with compromise in the middle. :)

[creativexangst.livejournal.com]

I've had my fair share of relationships and been what I thought "girlfriends should be" and those relationships have all ended. Miserably for some, fine for others, but ended. My current relationship started as a friendship and then we became partners and we still treat it as friends that do that sideways tango-I dont think we behave how couples are "supposed" to, but we're deliriously happy, most of the time.

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to be in a relationship (I mean, aside from abuse and stuff, thats clearly WRONG but I think you know what I mean). I think that you and SNB are building a foundation and thats important for a solid relationship-which you already know! So good luck to you guys, Im sure you'll make it past the 6 month mark, unless thats the point that he informs you he's actually an alien from planet XYZEYWQQWEZ, in which I still think YOU would figure out a way past that.