Oh, the ANGST
Apr. 10th, 2006 09:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bloodsong1Boy, that last post was awful. ^_^
I screwed up my courage and called the ex-MIL.
She informed me that lunch yesterday was her treat and until the ex hubby owns up to his responsibility and starts paying, SHE doesn't want to change the visitation.
Yes, she knows where he is. She said she goes and picks him up once in a while so he can see the kiddo for a few hours. She's glad I don't have a problem with that and doesn't think the ex wants to change the situation either.
It strikes me as a little ironic. She doesn't want to give up HER time with her grandson, because that's how the visitation has been conducted ever since the divorce. After the ex disappeared, she found out from me he wasn't paying support and asked if we could continue the way we were. I had no problem with that, so we did.
"I feel more comfortable being there when D's there." Paraphrased, but essence of the statement given to me tonight over the phone.
No, I didn't ask for contact information. I see no need to push when I have her nominally in my corner. Besides, I sincerely doubt she'd give it to me.
I know I'm a coward.
But wanna know something? I'm not the only one afraid of him. His mom and his sister are too. And they're the ones who will suffer if he blows his top over the state finding him. Not me. I'm in Denver and I have a husband that he damn well knows will rearrange his face if he lays a hand on me or the kiddo. Wolf might not do that for his mom and his sister.
So, I guess this is all for the best.
I screwed up my courage and called the ex-MIL.
She informed me that lunch yesterday was her treat and until the ex hubby owns up to his responsibility and starts paying, SHE doesn't want to change the visitation.
Yes, she knows where he is. She said she goes and picks him up once in a while so he can see the kiddo for a few hours. She's glad I don't have a problem with that and doesn't think the ex wants to change the situation either.
It strikes me as a little ironic. She doesn't want to give up HER time with her grandson, because that's how the visitation has been conducted ever since the divorce. After the ex disappeared, she found out from me he wasn't paying support and asked if we could continue the way we were. I had no problem with that, so we did.
"I feel more comfortable being there when D's there." Paraphrased, but essence of the statement given to me tonight over the phone.
No, I didn't ask for contact information. I see no need to push when I have her nominally in my corner. Besides, I sincerely doubt she'd give it to me.
I know I'm a coward.
But wanna know something? I'm not the only one afraid of him. His mom and his sister are too. And they're the ones who will suffer if he blows his top over the state finding him. Not me. I'm in Denver and I have a husband that he damn well knows will rearrange his face if he lays a hand on me or the kiddo. Wolf might not do that for his mom and his sister.
So, I guess this is all for the best.
