"You are a freak of nature."
Apr. 29th, 2010 07:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
bloodsong1So starts another parental conversation betwixt myself and my Wolf regarding IDK, wherein it is revealed that Wolf has issues with homework, Queenie is the ONLY ONE in the family with any kind of study skills, and IDK really is a good kid after all, he just needs structure and if he chooses to do his homework and not turn it in, well, the teachers need to reflect that in his grades.
But, Queenie, why would Wolf call you a freak of nature? Other than the obvious?
Well, I was homeschooled from grades 5-8 and again for 11-12. And when I say "homeschooled", I mean "I was given the books and I taught myself because my mother was too busy focusing on my younger brother." Wolf is firmly of the opinion Maternal Unit made Eagle, not Bgers. I agree with him, as I watched HER fill out HIS application and was seriously offended. But that's neither here nor there. The point he was trying to make was that I actually took it upon myself to study and learn, rather than saying "Fuck it" and go looking for trouble, or simply NOT do anything about it and settle for a GED.
I have an associate's degree. The lowest of college degrees, I admit and I'm a trifle ashamed of that fact, but there's no denying the OTHER fact that I'm the only one of that foursome who actually HAS a college degree.
I am still trying to come to terms that IDK is a typical 10 year old boy. He doesn't care if he wears clean clothes or not, he'd happily skip out on chores to go play outside (and does on a regular basis, something I've been trying to curtail for WEEKS) and school isn't his end all and be all. I do NOT understand this. Even at 10 I knew how important school was and it was my life. I had to DO WELL or else I would be a DISAPPOINTMENT to my parents. That was a horrifying thought. I was well into my late teens before the idea of Not Doing the Right Thing became appealing.
(Since then I've been married twice, divorced once and came out of the broom closet, much to Maternal Unit's consternation. I don't do things by halves.)
I guess I'm trying to reassure myself that I'm not being too hard on my eldest son. Homework and keeping his room picked up is important and he needs to learn this. He's just not wired the same way I am and I have to adapt to him.
But, Queenie, why would Wolf call you a freak of nature? Other than the obvious?
Well, I was homeschooled from grades 5-8 and again for 11-12. And when I say "homeschooled", I mean "I was given the books and I taught myself because my mother was too busy focusing on my younger brother." Wolf is firmly of the opinion Maternal Unit made Eagle, not Bgers. I agree with him, as I watched HER fill out HIS application and was seriously offended. But that's neither here nor there. The point he was trying to make was that I actually took it upon myself to study and learn, rather than saying "Fuck it" and go looking for trouble, or simply NOT do anything about it and settle for a GED.
I have an associate's degree. The lowest of college degrees, I admit and I'm a trifle ashamed of that fact, but there's no denying the OTHER fact that I'm the only one of that foursome who actually HAS a college degree.
I am still trying to come to terms that IDK is a typical 10 year old boy. He doesn't care if he wears clean clothes or not, he'd happily skip out on chores to go play outside (and does on a regular basis, something I've been trying to curtail for WEEKS) and school isn't his end all and be all. I do NOT understand this. Even at 10 I knew how important school was and it was my life. I had to DO WELL or else I would be a DISAPPOINTMENT to my parents. That was a horrifying thought. I was well into my late teens before the idea of Not Doing the Right Thing became appealing.
(Since then I've been married twice, divorced once and came out of the broom closet, much to Maternal Unit's consternation. I don't do things by halves.)
I guess I'm trying to reassure myself that I'm not being too hard on my eldest son. Homework and keeping his room picked up is important and he needs to learn this. He's just not wired the same way I am and I have to adapt to him.
