It's a bittersweet symphony

[bloodsong1]

How does one deal with a painful happiness? With bittersweet joy? Where one is rejoicing in being able to do certain things and blinking hard to prevent crying in public?

I had a chat with True Blue last night. I now know what my wedding dress looks like.

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I found a website that does beautiful crowns. SNB saw one he liked and said he would wear it to the wedding.

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Sammisnake has planted IDEAS into our heads.

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DARN YOU SPANGLY ELEPHANT!!!

*Spangly Elephant shrugs trunk and goes back to the shoe options*

I am pleased with the Spangly Elephant decisions. It's making this whole Thing seem more real. Reality is a little scary. I KNOW it's okay, intellectually. I know my family and friends will support me, which is a LOT more then I got in previous Things. (My parents have yet to support ANY marital decision I've made, even though they warmed up to Wolf before we moved out East. This is why my parents will receive announcements and not actual invitations. What's the point? Damn, that hurts.)

This bittersweetness will take time to process. It would be nice if I could figure out how to process it faster and/or more easily.

Comments

[chezelliott.livejournal.com]

I vote for comfy shoes. I have flat feet and heels are rough. Although, years ago I did see some lovely granny boots (about 8 inches tall) with low heels that looked really comfortable and very stylish. Of course, the shoes depend on the dress style. Which I think I've figured out. (I blame myself)
Naturally, I will wear whatever for ceremony and pictures and then switch to comfy later. And there is lots of time to shop.
As to how one deals with painful happiness? One deals. There are a lot of things even in the most happy circumstances that can cause emotional pain. The father's dance with the bride always gets me, no matter how happy I am for the couple. It will hurt me at my own wedding, but there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. Knowing what sets me off does allow me to compensate by taking bathroom breaks (at other people's weddings) or just doing something non-traditional (at my own). There will be no "giving away" at my wedding, either. Maybe an escort, depending. Although we actually discussed the scenario where each of the participants (couple and two witness, officiant) enters the sacred space from a different direction/point of the pentacle. Requires a lotta open space, though...
Life itself is bittersweet. Without the bitter, how would we know what sweetness is? People who always get what they want are never happy.

[sammisnake.livejournal.com]

Huh? What did I do? Planted WHAT ideas? Whatever I did, I hope it was helpful! And I know I'm not in the wedding, but I have a really cool robe to wear, in case I am invited..... ;)