You are respectful of outside opinions, a trait I feel SLB has not quite learned. I have learned much from you and I've leaned on you quite a bit in the last four years. I like to think the reverse is true, but I could be wrong.
It is going to take a lot of work for me to get to the point where I'm NOT feeling threatened by being challenged with questions. I don't know where to start. Talking to my counselor about it isn't always helpful, because I have the time to explain myself without the perceived threat of being challenged, so communication is very easy. Even when she's asking me hard questions about myself, I'm safe because it's all opinion and she won't judge and dismiss my answers. That's her job.
You don't dismiss my answers, but it's difficult to explain to you sometimes because you're so well read and intelligent and I'm not at your level and I know it. I sometimes feel like a student who's behind in class and is dreading being called on. This is silly and I know it, but it is there. "Why?" is my least favorite word, even when I'm using it on my kiddos to make them think about their actions. Actions, mind you. Not opinions,
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Am I becoming "Most People?" (^_^)
Date: 2014-05-17 03:14 am (UTC)You are respectful of outside opinions, a trait I feel SLB has not quite learned. I have learned much from you and I've leaned on you quite a bit in the last four years. I like to think the reverse is true, but I could be wrong.
It is going to take a lot of work for me to get to the point where I'm NOT feeling threatened by being challenged with questions. I don't know where to start. Talking to my counselor about it isn't always helpful, because I have the time to explain myself without the perceived threat of being challenged, so communication is very easy. Even when she's asking me hard questions about myself, I'm safe because it's all opinion and she won't judge and dismiss my answers. That's her job.
You don't dismiss my answers, but it's difficult to explain to you sometimes because you're so well read and intelligent and I'm not at your level and I know it. I sometimes feel like a student who's behind in class and is dreading being called on. This is silly and I know it, but it is there. "Why?" is my least favorite word, even when I'm using it on my kiddos to make them think about their actions. Actions, mind you. Not opinions,